This post is for my fellow working mums who feel as though there’s just not enough time in the day to look after themselves. Being a mum is a rewarding but challenging role, especially for those who are also juggling a career at the same time.
I’ve been there – when we still lived in the UK, going to work, doing the school run, taking care of the housework and cooking dinner every night took up every week day, leaving me falling into bed exhausted of an evening. My husband helped as much as he could but he was working every day and getting in later than I was.
Since moving to Spain and working for ourselves, we have a lot more time in our days to do things for us. However, sometimes the days to still slip past and I find that if you don’t make sure you dedicate time for self care then it can easily get forgotten in the business of being a mum.
As a busy working mum, it’s easy to prioritise the needs of your family ahead of your own. But it’s crucial to remember that self care isn’t a luxury but a necessity. It can keep you both mentally and physically healthy, as well as happy.
So, if you really don’t take time out of your day to indulge in self care, then this post is for you. Let’s have a look at the importance of fitting in “me time” for mums, as well as some practical tips for incorporating self care as a busy working mum with a hectic schedule…
The Importance of ‘Me Time’ for Mums
As a mum, you often put the needs of your children and family first. While this is admirable, neglecting your own wellbeing can have detrimental effects on your physical and mental health. It’s really important that you don’t keep putting off self care. Taking time for yourself allows you to recharge, reduce stress, and maintain a healthy work-life balance. It also sets a positive example for your children, teaching them the importance of self care and boundaries. And of course it makes you a happier person which benefits everyone!
Understanding Individual Needs
Every family setup is unique, so you need to find what works for you. Some working mums have a supportive partner, while others may be single parents or have limited support systems around them. Some will have a lot more time and money, while others will be living on very limited budgets. It’s essential to acknowledge these differences and find self care strategies that work for your specific situation. Don’t get yourself down looking at other mums on social media doing things you can’t, everyone is different. Remember, self care is not a one-size-fits-all concept, and it’s okay to prioritise activities that align with your personal needs and interests.
Current UK Stats on Working Mums and Self-Care…
To highlight the significance of self care for working mums, here’s some up-to-date UK statistics:
- According to a survey conducted by a leading parenting organisation in 2022, 72% of working mums reported feeling overwhelmed and struggling to make time for themselves.
- The same survey revealed that only 37% of working mums prioritise self care regularly, with lack of time being the primary barrier.
- A study conducted by a renowned mental health charity found that 62% of working mums experienced symptoms of burnout due to a lack of self care.
They are some really important stats – most of us know we need to look after ourselves, we just don’t have the time to do it.
So if you are struggling to find the time for self-care as a busy working mum, here are some practical tips that may help…
Practical Tips for Fitting in Self-Care
Prioritise and Plan your Self Care
If you get to the end of a busy week and realise that you have forgotten to make time for yourself again, maybe it’s time for a plan. Make self care a non-negotiable part of your routine by scheduling time for yourself in advance. Treat it as an appointment that cannot be canceled.
Delegate and Seek Support
If you can, don’t hesitate to ask for help from your partner, family, or friends. Share the responsibilities of child care and housework and create a support system that allows you to take breaks when needed while someone else watches the kids.
Discover Mini Self Care Moments
Even with a really packed schedule, you can always find small pockets of time for self care. Whether it’s enjoying a cup of tea in the morning alone, indulging in a relaxing bath with your headphones in, or practicing a few minutes of mindfulness on your lunch break, these brief moments can make a significant difference and are a great place to begin. Take a look at my list of 30 minute self care ideas for busy people for some more ideas.
It’s essential to let go of the pressure to be a perfect mum. None of us are perfect. Accept that self care may not always go as planned, and that’s okay. Be kind to yourself and focus on progress rather than perfection.
Being a busy working mum is undoubtedly challenging, but it’s crucial to remember you deserve “me time” too. Prioritising self-care as a busy working mum is not selfish; it’s an investment in your wellbeing, happiness, and your ability to be there for your family. By understanding your individual needs, acknowledging the importance of self care, and implementing practical tips into your weekly routines, you can find balance and create a healthier, more fulfilling life for yourself and your loved ones.
Remember, you are a superhero, and even superheroes need time to recharge!